Monday, October 15, 2007


When I was in high school I was friends with a brilliant young man who wrote a sonnet in my senior yearbook; here is an excerpt:

"Before the last tear falls away
A final word I'd like to give.
So take my thoughts and from this day
Fly forward and in bliss do live....

To win the war 'gainst pain and strife
Accept CHANGE as a way of life."

I much prefer the mantra, "Change is bad. Change is bad. Change is bad..."

Change is hard for me. Perhaps it is the Libra in me that doesn't like my scales to be thrown out of balance. I do understand that change is necessary in life, but it seems like things just change too fast! New neighborhoods and shopping centers pop up overnight, changing the landscape of the town I grew up in so fast I can barely keep up. Stores where I regularly shop remodel and move everything around so I go in and am immediately lost. My children are growing up much too fast - and I love who they are becoming, but I miss those baby days, too. Couldn't I have just had a little bit longer? And my body is changing. Bubba's Mom always told me it would when I got to be about this age (I think I can hear her snickering). Nothing drastic, mind you. But things are shifting, wrinkling, pooching. Why can't I just stay the way I have always looked? I liked my 24-year-old body!!

Things change at Hubby's work - not always for the better. Things change at our church - puts everyone in a tailspin. But change is necessary for growth, and if you're not growing, you are dying. I may not embrace change, but I must accept it.

But why does it always have to be so scary?


wendy bird said...

Change also provides an opportunity for great adventure...just depends on your perspective.

You can do it...I believe in you...everything will be ok.

cjh said...

Oh, because you just never know. It's all a leap of faith. Things could turn out much better or worse. You just never know. But it seems to me that the changes you can control almost always turn out for the better. It's those unexpected ones life throws at you that you have to watch out for (and maybe duck).

Bubba's Sis said...

You hit the nail on the head, cjh - if I'm in control of the change, everything is fine. But when Life throws me a curveball - yikes!

Katie Lady said...

Um, what's changed most recently? Besides moving, I mean?

D... said...

I was wondering the same, Katie Lady.

Bubba's Sis said...

No no - no big changes around here. Just some talk at our church group last night about some changes at the church got me to reflecting on change in general, thus the post.

crazy working mom said...

Amen, sistah! I don't like change either...and gettin' old is a bitch. :(